It’s a fairly well-known fact that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. But sticking to that is, in reality, pretty damn difficult.
When it comes to running, I don’t necessarily compare myself to others, but I do often compare myself to pre-kid Cat. She was faster, more efficient, and frankly enjoyed running a lot more than mama Cat does. With two kids, it’s hard to find the time to properly dedicate to getting faster, never mind the energy to get my butt up and go. Those extra 15 pounds hanging out in my poor abused belly that housed two large babies definitely doesn’t help.
I know I shouldn’t, but I also compare myself to others at work. It’s not a fair comparison because I have different responsibilities than those I work with, and my job is much less high-profile than theirs. I know I perform an important role, but it doesn’t seem as consequential as people who are responsible for retaining clients spending tens of thousands on advertising. While I do have an indirect role in that, it’s not what I focus on daily, which, on a business level, seems less important.
For the most part, though, I try to live in the moment and focus on loving the person I am today. She’s not perfect, but she is who she is and that is enough.